What’s Defining You?

What are you being defined by?

  • Your body?
  • Your career?
  • Your education level?
  • What your friends, parents, boss, spouse say about you?
  • Past mistakes?

I’ve allowed myself to be defined by all of these things too.  At some point I’m sure something on this list (and things not on the list) we have all felt defined by. But none of these things are what we are!!!

We aren’t our body, but we have a body.

We have a career, but we are not our career.

We may or may not have finished schooling, but we’re not our IQ or diploma.

People in our lives may doubt us, may say negative things but that’s actually not about us at all and it has everything to do with how poorly they see themselves, how insecure they are!

We might make mistakes, but we aren’t mistakes.  Mistakes are nothing more than growth opportunities.

What are we really? We are souls having a human experience honestly. Does that mean that we shouldn’t take care of our bodies? That’s not what I’m saying. Yes, I do believe that taking care of the flesh is important because it houses the soul and for us to be able to actually do what we are called to do, what I refer to as our “SOUL WORK,” the flesh has to be able! But our exterior shouldn’t be the main focus of our lives.  A Course in Miracles says, “Do not fight yourself,” meaning waging war against your body is only glorifying it, and creating an idol.  Beating yourself up based on your body takes love away from the world instead of adding to it.  It decreases your ability to bring good into the world. Stop “punishing” your body, whether through deprivation or indulging.  Treat your body with respect and love, period. It’s a gift.

Does that surprise you coming from a personal trainer and health coach?  Those might be titles that the world gave me to describe what I do, but what I actually do and want people to know is that I’m a lightworker, a mentor, helping others see the power that is within them and helping them embrace what they’re here on this world to do!

What is our purpose here? Is it to pick a career at 22, stick it out no matter what, punch a time clock, pay our bills and die? Yeah, I know it’s not and you know it’s not as well.  I believe our purpose here is to:

  1. LOVE. Love ourselves. Love each other. Heal the world with LOVE.
  2. Be good stewards with everything we have.  That means utilizing our gifts, talents, abilities, that have been given to us for a specific purpose.  USE THEM! The world needs you, that’s why you were created!  You have something to offer!
  3. To help others through this crazy thing called life by teaching what we’ve learned from our own experiences and to help them become all they were created to be and recognize that they are spiritual beings having a human experience.

None of those above 3 things have anything to do with the size of your body, the career you picked, if you finished school or what your diploma says or what other people think about you!  Let’s work on not being defined by those things, the things the world tells us are important and let’s start focusing on what is important, loving ourselves and others and shining our unique and authentic light into the world to help guide others!

What are your unique gifts and talents that you can use to make the world a better place?  How are you using them? Comment below!  I want to know!

Go change the world,





6 Tips to a Positive Mindset

Every single day you have the opportunity to start over, fresh slate, you’re brand new.

Don’t drag tomorrow, last week, last year into today.  Don’t add worries about tomorrow, next week, next year into today.

To fully live a beautiful life, to appreciate life, to be happy, you must live in the present moment.  You cannot go backwards in time and fix anything and going backwards will only cause you pain and suffering.

You cannot control the outcomes of the future fully.  Don’t project your fear and worries forward into your life.

What you can do, is your best today.  You can be immersed in each moment as they come.  You can love deeply, smile wide, embrace each minute you’ve been gifted. Feel the sun on your skin, the wind in your hair, the beat of your heart in your chest.  CHERISH RIGHT NOW!

All of this of course is a mindset shift and takes work, but it’s well worth it!  So how do you change your mindset to become more positive, to release fear, to embrace happiness and thankfulness?


Here are a few tips on how to change your mindset:


  1. Practice Gratitude Multiple times a day.  When you wake up in the morning express thanks that you’re opening your eyes again. That you have another day ahead of you.  Take some time to journal three things you appreciate in your life, it doesn’t matter how big or small they are.  As your day progresses, find things to be thankful for that you might have otherwise overlooked, like the smile from a stranger or someone holding the door for you.
  2. Do Something Nice for Someone Else.  Big or small act it doesn’t matter.  Start a chain reaction. Pay for someone’s coffee, help a co-worker that’s overwhelmed, pay a compliment to someone instead of keeping your thought to yourself.
  3. Turn Off the News and TV.  Do you realize most of what you hear on the news is absolutely dreadful? It’s depressing and negative. Why inundate your brain with that?  SKIP!
  4. Read More or Listen to Audios.  Pick up a personal growth and development book! Gasp, you might have to walk into the “self help” section of the book store!  But trust me, filling your brain with GOOD, positive information will transform your life.  Pick books based on areas of your life you’d like to improve!  If you’re not a reader, download audible or podcasts to listen to!  Make your commuting time one of growth versus spending it scrolling Facebook. If you need suggestions feel free to message me.  I probably own half of the books and audios at this point!
  5. Cut Down Your Social Media Time. Yup I’m going there! While social sites can be great, they can also be giant time sucks and ways to start feeling bad about yourself and comparing yourself to others.  Remember that what people share on SM is their highlight reel! If you want to be part of social media sites, give yourself a time limit so you don’t get sucked in.  Also, stop following people that leave you feeling less than or that you find yourself in a comparison game with or that post lots of negative things.  
  6. Choose Your Circle Wisely. This is probably the hardest one you’ll have to work on.  You’re most like the 5 people you spend time with.  Start paying attention to those you socialize with on a regular basis.  Are they negative or positive? Are they growing or stagnant? Are you in the comparison game with them? How do you feel in these relationships? Are they sucking your energy? Do you leave your time with these people feeling awful? If so, it’s time to find a new circle!  Don’t feel bad about this!


Which tips are you going to start implementing??  I’d love to know! Leave me a comment below!